From The Archives: Sins as White as Snow
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Check out some of the old Unpious favorites! This week, “Sins as White as Snow” by AM Yehuda:
Alone with myself and my reflection, behind the curtain, I pulled off my blouse. My body looked like a composite of two different people’s skin – my hands and face deeply browned by the sun, the rest of my body, always covered with modest clothes, a pale pink. My dark hair had grown long and fell to the middle of my back. Behind my dirty glasses my eyes looked changed. My face was leaking more emotion than I thought it did. I didn’t look like I was sixteen years old anymore.
I slipped the sweater off the hanger and put it on, the thin cotton soft on my skin. The cuffs ended in intricate lace patterns and the neck had a band of the same lace. The bright white shone against the tanned skin of my face and hands.
Check out the great “But Why Do We Leave Debate” in the comments:
Brandspankingnewsquare: I am cool with being otd. just hate it when people pretend its for intellectual reasons. thats why Iove this piece. so real and true. We just want to be hot, and free, even if we are wrong!
Hasidic Rebel: I’ve been witness and been part of dozens and dozens of debates with kiruv rabbis. Accept it or not, but the kiruv rabbis don’t have the answers. As for leaving because you just want to be free, I can’t say I completely relate to that, but I for one wouldn’t judge it either. Personally, I have no boobs to show off, so obviously that wasn’t my motivation…
Todd: Just to show off your boobs? That would be a bad reason. But it masks something very important. One of the criterion signs of a destructive cult is the degree of absolute control it exercises over the members’ sexuality. … If you’re On the Derech you sign up for a truly evil degree of sexual slavery. It’s not just a matter of with whom. Every act is highly prescribed. What isn’t compulsory is forbidden. When. Where. How. What positions. What variations. How you dress. What rituals you must engage in before and after.
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Todd: Just to show off your boobs? That would be a bad reason. But it masks something very important. One of the criterion signs of a destructive cult is the degree of absolute control it exercises over the members’ sexuality. … If you’re On the Derech you sign up for a truly evil degree of sexual slavery. It’s not just a matter of with whom. Every act is highly prescribed. What isn’t compulsory is forbidden. When. Where. How. What positions. What variations. How you dress. What rituals you must engage in before and after.
I am sorry but you seem a bit ignorant (or exaggerating) in this matter. I agree that many people live by this perception, but in actuality it isn’t so at all.
My rav told me before I got married that in the torah there is black, white and grey. Black is having sex when your wife is a nida, white is having sex Friday night, and everything in between is in the grey area and is up for anyone and everyone’s personal interpretation.
Yes, I know that not being able to have sex for almost 2 weeks every month is very frustrating, degrading and what not, maybe even some form of sexual slavery, but NO ONE is ever told where, how or what positions, and things that aren’t compulsory aren’t forbidden. Btw I am a happily married frustrated Chasid and avid reader of this blog.